Here is what I always advise my friends when it comes to relationships with other people (including casual friendships): Relationships are two-way; both people in a relationship must make an effort to pursue a healthy connection. If one slacks, the other should not really give a damn about reciprocating love that isn't sent to them in the first place. Now of course there are few exceptions to the rule such as a temporary fallout with best friends and family. However, while we're still young, we have the opportunity to experiment and socialize with new people. If there is someone in your life who doesn't seem to take the time to show their appreciation for your love as you do for them...and its a common occurence...why continue the relationship? Finding compatibility with someone is no problem. I know it sounds pessimistic ... but haven't you ever seen a friendship where one person sacrifices their time, blood, sweat, and tears for the other ... but in return the other friend can't even return a call? or bother to invite them places? It hurts that person so much but they love their friend(s) too much to give up. I've seen it...I've felt it. It hurts so much and I'll even admit I haven't had the heart to let some of those people go.

Anyways...be open to new people...who will love you for however long. Out of the many you will always find those few who always will be there for you as you are for them. Keep them close and appreciate them.

~Carol

p.s. and for gods sake ... be selfish. you deserve the world.

Here is what I always advise my friends when it comes to relationships with other people (including casual friendships): Relationships are two-way; both people in a relationship must make an effort to pursue a healthy connection. If one slacks, the other should not really give a damn about reciprocating love that isn't sent to them in the first place. Now of course there are few exceptions to the rule such as a temporary fallout with best friends and family. However, while we're still young, we have the opportunity to experiment and socialize with new people. If there is someone in your life who doesn't seem to take the time to show their appreciation for your love as you do for them...and its a common occurence...why continue the relationship? Finding compatibility with someone is no problem. I know it sounds pessimistic ... but haven't you ever seen a friendship where one person sacrifices their time, blood, sweat, and tears for the other ... but in return the other friend can't even return a call? or bother to invite them places? It hurts that person so much but they love their friend(s) too much to give up. I've seen it...I've felt it. It hurts so much and I'll even admit I haven't had the heart to let some of those people go.

Anyways...be open to new people...who will love you for however long. Out of the many you will always find those few who always will be there for you as you are for them. Keep them close and appreciate them.

~Carol

p.s. and for gods sake ... be selfish. you deserve the world.